This week we turn to dating with a question from one of our readers: Dear Maxwells, I’m a woman in my mid-30s looking to find a partner. Do you recommend dating apps or even more specifically, matchmaking services to help me with this?

This week, we’re pulling from the field. As relationship coaches, this is a question that we get from nearly every one of our clients who we coach.

Chores. They’re one big, annoying area of life that can kill intimacy and connection in any relationship. Whether you’re cohabitating, shacking up or just sleeping over at someone’s place, how you delineate chores in the living space and other areas of your relationship will impact things in either a positive or negative way. Like taxes, the reality of chores is just something we all have to deal with, so we might as well get good at dealing with them — together.

Ahh…money. Other than sex, (and disagreements in how to raise children if you have kids) money may just take the take for the most popular area of life that couples fight about!

The good news is that this is a very common issue in relationships, and not just in long-term relationships but also in early-stage relationships. So you are not alone in this — in fact, this is one of those things that the vast majority of couples deal with at least at some point in their relationship, if not regularly.

Modern love, simply put, is loving — and/or searching for love — in the age of hyper self awareness. It is loving in the age of social media, of mindfulness, of personal-development podcasts, therapy and life coaching. It is loving in the age of egalitarianism and political correctness. And it’s loving in the aftermath of those who loved before us, and all the lessons that have been handed down to us about what love is, what it isn’t, and how to do it “right.” As if there is such a thing.